People in my life
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stillpermanentHonestly, I'm not 100% sure what I'm going to be using this for. Likely emotional outlet, occasionally post icons?
I had this on my LJ, and I dunno if anyone read it, but some key figures in my RL. (I have some amazing internet friends, that while I care worry about them, they don't cause drama. At least, not the heavy kind. &hearts)
Mum: One of my closest friends. Always supportive, we often are slap happy together and she has become a sort of mother hen for my bffs. She's was amazing woman, if I'm even half as awesome a mother as her, I'll count myself lucky. She passed away from cancer, September, 23rd 2019.
Dad: epic work-aholic, doctor and widower. My mom was his best friend and he helped take care of her to the end. Obvs, her death has changed him, and I'm still figuring out how. Otherwise we get along although it took a loooooong time (and a lot of therapy) for it to be that way. We share tastes in music so we've become music buddies. It's funny.
Sam: Older brother by 4 years. He's a hospice doctor in NY. I couldn't be prouder of him. Again, took us a while to get where we are in our relationship. We're not that close, but I know that if I'm ever in a bind he'll be there no questions asked. We don't see much of each other but as we've gotten older we've seen more eye to eye. Married to Laura. She's a classic New Yorker, loud, right about everything, spends money in absurd ways. But she's lovely.
Shai: MY BELOVED NEPHEW. He's a little over 1.
Uncle Phillip, Aunt Julie, (Mum's brother & 2nd wife) Zachary, Brendan, Alex & Josh: children from 1st & current marriage I'm closest to my cousin Zachary, the other 3 by his first wife never liked me and idolized my brother. But it doesn't matter since we're no longer in contact. He accused my Mum of killing my Grandpa & killing my Grandma (in front of her before she died), so since both have passed away my Mum's cut all contact and so has my Uncle. One cousin kinda attempted to be respectful when my mom died but it was pathetic.
Grandma Phyllis, Uncle Ricky and Aunt Rosie: My Dad's Mum and younger siblings. I love them but weren't involved much in my childhood unless it was convenient/we came to them. Now they've been reaching out more and I have more memories of my Aunt Rosie than anyone, but sometimes it's easier to placate them. The last year of my mom's life was spent within 30 minutes of them and my grandmother never even asked about her. My aunt & uncle were better but hardly there for my father.
Grandpa Les: My Dad's step father, the only Grandpa I've known on his side. My Dad's father died when he was 11, it's a sad story that fucked them all up royally. I was the only one crying at my Grandpa's funeral, it turns out he used to be a mean man but he was always so nice to me and Sam.
Grandpa Jess: My Mum's Dad and the grandparent I was closest to. He was deaf for as long as I can remember, and was one of the first people to get a cochlear implant in the 90's. I was the only grandkid who learned any sign language, he was never fluent nor was I but signing "I love you" was our thing. He had a stroke and went into a coma when I was about 10. No one expected him to wake up but he did, I remember standing at the end of the bed and when he saw me he went to sign "I love you" but was too weak to do it properly and I burst into tears. He lived another 8 years, no short term memory, falling and breaking ribs going in and out of the hospital. My Mum told me he lived to see me be Bat Mitzvah'ed. To this day a part of me hates myself if this is even a little true. My senior year I got the lead in a play I helped write and Grandma came to see it then we'd all go to their house in NJ for Thanksgiving. The Sunday after the final show we got the call he wasn't going to last long, he died alone while we were stuck in traffic, Nov. 23 2004.
Grandma Natalie: Mum's Mum. We got closer when Mum moved her to RI so she could take care of her. My Uncle lived closer but couldn't be bothered. Mum and she became much closer in the last few years of her life, as did I--it was more than anyone expected. She Nov. 7, 2010.
Friends/Family I choose
Emma: Oldest friend since kindergarden.
Alli: Only person from high school I'm still in touch with, best person in the damn place if you ask me.
Steph, Amanda, Michela, Ginger & Drew: Gang from MassArt. Amazing people & amazing artists.
Steph is married to Matt and live sorta close.
Amands lives with her long time BF, Eric, they just bought a house
Drew married Daniel and they're wonderful. They have lots of plants and 2 fur babies.
My girls
Jessie: How I met the rest of my amazing roomies. My hetero lifemate. Happily married to her wife in TX. Adopted the cutest baby boy, Gryffie who is my godson.
Roomies
Medra: My rock. Gryffie's other godmom.
Becky: Jessie's younger sister who lived with us for a while. She was a little sister to all of us. She passed away February 18th 2018. She was 28.
.
I had this on my LJ, and I dunno if anyone read it, but some key figures in my RL. (I have some amazing internet friends, that while I care worry about them, they don't cause drama. At least, not the heavy kind. &hearts)
Mum: One of my closest friends. Always supportive, we often are slap happy together and she has become a sort of mother hen for my bffs. She's was amazing woman, if I'm even half as awesome a mother as her, I'll count myself lucky. She passed away from cancer, September, 23rd 2019.
Dad: epic work-aholic, doctor and widower. My mom was his best friend and he helped take care of her to the end. Obvs, her death has changed him, and I'm still figuring out how. Otherwise we get along although it took a loooooong time (and a lot of therapy) for it to be that way. We share tastes in music so we've become music buddies. It's funny.
Sam: Older brother by 4 years. He's a hospice doctor in NY. I couldn't be prouder of him. Again, took us a while to get where we are in our relationship. We're not that close, but I know that if I'm ever in a bind he'll be there no questions asked. We don't see much of each other but as we've gotten older we've seen more eye to eye. Married to Laura. She's a classic New Yorker, loud, right about everything, spends money in absurd ways. But she's lovely.
Shai: MY BELOVED NEPHEW. He's a little over 1.
Uncle Phillip, Aunt Julie, (Mum's brother & 2nd wife) Zachary, Brendan, Alex & Josh: children from 1st & current marriage I'm closest to my cousin Zachary, the other 3 by his first wife never liked me and idolized my brother. But it doesn't matter since we're no longer in contact. He accused my Mum of killing my Grandpa & killing my Grandma (in front of her before she died), so since both have passed away my Mum's cut all contact and so has my Uncle. One cousin kinda attempted to be respectful when my mom died but it was pathetic.
Grandma Phyllis, Uncle Ricky and Aunt Rosie: My Dad's Mum and younger siblings. I love them but weren't involved much in my childhood unless it was convenient/we came to them. Now they've been reaching out more and I have more memories of my Aunt Rosie than anyone, but sometimes it's easier to placate them. The last year of my mom's life was spent within 30 minutes of them and my grandmother never even asked about her. My aunt & uncle were better but hardly there for my father.
Grandpa Les: My Dad's step father, the only Grandpa I've known on his side. My Dad's father died when he was 11, it's a sad story that fucked them all up royally. I was the only one crying at my Grandpa's funeral, it turns out he used to be a mean man but he was always so nice to me and Sam.
Grandpa Jess: My Mum's Dad and the grandparent I was closest to. He was deaf for as long as I can remember, and was one of the first people to get a cochlear implant in the 90's. I was the only grandkid who learned any sign language, he was never fluent nor was I but signing "I love you" was our thing. He had a stroke and went into a coma when I was about 10. No one expected him to wake up but he did, I remember standing at the end of the bed and when he saw me he went to sign "I love you" but was too weak to do it properly and I burst into tears. He lived another 8 years, no short term memory, falling and breaking ribs going in and out of the hospital. My Mum told me he lived to see me be Bat Mitzvah'ed. To this day a part of me hates myself if this is even a little true. My senior year I got the lead in a play I helped write and Grandma came to see it then we'd all go to their house in NJ for Thanksgiving. The Sunday after the final show we got the call he wasn't going to last long, he died alone while we were stuck in traffic, Nov. 23 2004.
Grandma Natalie: Mum's Mum. We got closer when Mum moved her to RI so she could take care of her. My Uncle lived closer but couldn't be bothered. Mum and she became much closer in the last few years of her life, as did I--it was more than anyone expected. She Nov. 7, 2010.
Friends/Family I choose
Emma: Oldest friend since kindergarden.
Alli: Only person from high school I'm still in touch with, best person in the damn place if you ask me.
Steph, Amanda, Michela, Ginger & Drew: Gang from MassArt. Amazing people & amazing artists.
Steph is married to Matt and live sorta close.
Amands lives with her long time BF, Eric, they just bought a house
Drew married Daniel and they're wonderful. They have lots of plants and 2 fur babies.
My girls
Jessie: How I met the rest of my amazing roomies. My hetero lifemate. Happily married to her wife in TX. Adopted the cutest baby boy, Gryffie who is my godson.
Roomies
Medra: My rock. Gryffie's other godmom.
Becky: Jessie's younger sister who lived with us for a while. She was a little sister to all of us. She passed away February 18th 2018. She was 28.
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